I just finished Samantha’s 12 week UNBOX Your Sexuality program.

I’m so glad that I joined this program.

I had only recently come to terms with my same sex attraction and had started the process of coming out to my close family and friends.

I had seen Samantha’s IG posts relating to same sex attraction and each one spoke to me directly as they reiterated what I had been feeling, the questions that I had been asking myself and the way I felt stuck and not really know what I should do with this new information.

I decided to ‘jump in’ and join the program and I will be forever changed thanks to the path that this work has set me on.

Samantha’s work modules keep you on track to unravel and understand how/why we come out later in life.

The weekly group work encourages you to stay on track, and also provides you with the much needed support of a ‘queer community’ as you work to become comfortable as a queer/gay/lesbian/bisexual individual.

Each of the individuals that completed the program with me are stronger and braver as we look towards our new pathways.

If you are considering joining Samantha’s 12 week UNBOX Your Sexuality Program, just do it!

I am so grateful that I was able to have such an opportunity, and am a bit saddened that the program has ended for us. This just means that Sam get’s to weave her special 'rainbow dust' on another group of women who need support. Love you Sam, thanks for your work. Kindest regards Nic.

Samantha’s UNBOX Your Sexuality program is a life changer. It doesn’t matter what your age is, what your situation is (single, married, dating…), or where you are in this journey of your sexuality.

Before starting the course, I was a lost soul. I am about 99% sure my first conversation with Samantha consisted of more "I don’t know" than actual answers.

I had no idea who I even was.

I can honestly say I had never had any understanding of my sexuality (it was a taboo topic). About seven years ago I started putting more and more queer novels on my e-reader. That built into watching more and more female queer movies and simply noticing more queer couples.

All of a sudden in the past 6 months the universe decided I was not taking the hints given to me and decided to up the game. I searched for things relating to queerness, took online quizzes, or came across the Lesbian Masterdoc. Yet still, I was confused. I mean, “I can’t be queer! I have never even kissed another woman, let alone had a relationship with one.”

I came across Samantha’s IG page and things really resonated with me. I made the decision to step into this because I was truly curious about what it was all about.

When I said earlier this course is a life changer, that is an understatement. 12 weeks later, I can tell you that I figured out the 'whys' behind my confusion of my identity. I worked through them to finally feel free.

There were valid reasons for me to feel confused. And there are for you too!

Samantha and the UNBOX Your Sexuality program will help you work through them so you, too, can finally find your true authentic self. You will do worksheets and talk with other humans who are in similar mindsets as you. The work will be hard sometimes, but so worth your time and effort.

Before this group, I had no community. However, after this program, I not only found a community within the group but also was able to put myself out there in my local community. I have come from a lifetime of never quite fitting in, only to realize why I felt that way... I didn’t fit in because the puzzle piece missing was my identity, and I was trying to jam myself into the wrong puzzle.

If there is one thing I can tell you, it's "Do this course for YOU - you deserve it". You may be nervous but believe me, it was the absolute best thing I have done for myself in my entire life.

Jen - Minnesota

My journey to self-discovery and emotional freedom began with just one coaching session with Samantha; it was transformative. After battling anxiety and questioning my sexual identity for the past several months, I realized therapy alone was insufficient. I needed a life coach who could meet me where I am currently and equip me with emotional tools. Samantha created a safe space for vulnerability from the beginning. I openly shared my struggles, even crying at first. However, by the end of the session I felt at peace. Samantha asked insightful questions and drew from her own experiences, personalizing our session. We discovered that from a young age I was conditioned to ignore my feelings and make decisions based solely on “doing the right thing”. The conditioning of my upbringing has caused me to constantly seek control. Now this tendency manifests as anxiety around my identity.

Samantha’s coaching sparked “happiness” within me. By the end of our session, I felt ready to mediate and fully experience every emotion, for however long I needed to feel. I did just that, and it was cathartic. Afterwards, a calmness washed over me that I had not felt in months.

I know this journey will not be easy, but at least I now have the tools to feel my emotions, accept myself and embrace what comes. I’m excited to join Samantha’s 12-Week Late Bloomers Bootcamp as I am ready to lean more into self-exploratory work and to connect with a community of women on a similar path. Previously, I thought I was alone; Samantha has shown me otherwise. My journey has only just begun.”

D.R., New Jersey

"Before I started the small group program, I was incredibly uncomfortable talking about my sexuality and could barely even bring it up with my therapist, let alone anyone else. Once in the program with Samantha, I quickly overcame my discomfort and started to spread my wings.
Before the course was over, I had gone on my first lesbian date, told a woman I liked her for the first time, came out to friends, and then came out to my religious parents! I also gained a wonderful group of new friends through the program with whom I will continue to keep in touch."

H., New York

"Working with Samantha has been such a productive investment in my emotional health. I had been trying to work through this quandary on my own, but I kept ending up paralyzed by fear and unable to move through indecision to a healthier place.

Samantha’s skill in asking just the right question at just the right time allowed me to get clarity on the best ways to progress forward. Being able to access her through asynchronous coaching between live sessions kept me feeling fully supported, like she had her hand on my back the whole time. It was an incredible relief to share with someone who truly understood (from personal experience) and such a benefit to have her coaching enhanced by her training & experience as a LMFT."

Trish B. Jasper, Canada

“Coming out later in life after living a disingenuous straight life for over thirty years was both terrifying and exhilarating.

Shedding the pretense of heteronormativity and embracing my authentic inner tom boi while feeling comfortable in my own body for the first time was, and continues to be life-giving.

Having Samantha there to help guide me through this process was incredible. She taught me about being true to myself and embracing myself as I am unapologetically.”

Stephanie F., New Jersey

“Coming out later in life is overwhelming and can be extremely lonely.

The Unbox Your Sexuality Program is like suddenly being in a magical room with all the support and advice you need along with the hands and hearts of others going through the same thing.”

CW, Maine

“The program helped me reflect and better understand myself and my journey. Inviting curiosity and empathy is kind and supports growth and courage.

Meeting other people on similar journeys is inspiring and empowering. I highly recommend the process.”

JT, Hawaii

“Feeling like I didn't fit in, like there was something off or wrong, having relationships that never felt like that soul level...it all makes sense now. I was never myself. I was always trying to play the part that everyone else wanted me to play.
There was no way that I was going to live at my highest potential or be the best person that I could be staying straight, cisgendered and people pleasing, doing all the things that society wanted me to do - I was going to be mediocre.

Now I feel so much pride for who I am. I feel excited, like I finally match who I am.”

K.G., Seattle

“I first worked with Samantha in a previous incarnation of her current “Unbox Your Sexuality” program. I desperately needed to find a way to work through all of the different conditioning I had experienced and internalized in my 51 years, and starting from scratch, learning on my own even with an excellent (straight) therapist was painfully slow. The group program quickly established a small, intimate community with an enormous sense of trust where I was able to openly discuss what I was going through as we worked through the well thought out and organized modules Samantha has built up through all of her work with women coming out late in life, informed by her own experience…. I am certain that program saved me YEARS in working through and processing so much - and learning to accept and love myself without worrying nearly as much about how I am perceived and what others (my family in particular) think of me. It was exactly what I needed to take the next hard steps of really listening to my body and moving forward in a much more wholly authentic existence. Following the program, I opted to take my self work to another level with 1:1 work - but I missed the regular touch points of the group and the closeness of the community (even though my cohort has largely stayed in touch and we still meet occasionally on our own - it wasn’t the same). The Sapphic Circle has been an amazing vehicle for trusted valued feedback in community with women at all different stages of coming out (and into our own selves) with moderation and active support from Samantha. The treasured friendships I’ve developed in the last year of working with Samantha and in the community she’s built and continues to evolve are truly priceless. I can’t imagine where I’d be right now without her and the women in the circle”. -Michelle

“Shame. Guilt. Loneliness. Fear. Grief. All while feeling emotionally numb. “What’s wrong with me?”

This headspace is where I lived during my marriage of 13 years to a man and it followed me into my divorce. I struggled to live in my truth and felt guilty dragging our child through this ugly process. I knew I had to work on myself first but was lost on where to begin.

Then I stumbled upon Samantha’s Instagram page and instantly felt validated and heard. Although scared, I joined her Unbox Your Sexuality program a few months later and it was life changing.

Coming “out” is very much an internal process. This program challenges you to look inward toward your experiences to see why and how to move through your struggles.

I learned how to recognize compulsory heterosexuality, internalized homophobia, misogyny, patriarchal expectations and so so so much more. I was able to connect the dots and had so many aha moments as if everything finally clicked.

Samantha was knowledgeable, welcoming, warm, comforting and relatable as she helped guide us on our journey of self-discovery.

Since completing the program, I have found accepting and loving myself much easier. Labels have lost the negative connotation and rigidity I once struggled with. I’m starting to embrace my own personal style. I learned to recognize my own emotions, learn what they’re truly trying to say and how to work with them. And I find myself utilizing my “adult energy” much more to better handle situations. For once I can honestly say I’m excited for the future— almost giddy like a teenager. I thought I had lost that at 44 years of age. But now I’m going on a trip next summer with a group of queer peers and I’m no longer afraid. This experience has been transformational and I’m so glad to have had Sam there to guide me! And I need you to know there is happiness on the other side of vulnerability. You just have to move through the process.❤️”

—Lisa D.

"Going through the Unbox Your Sexuality program, I’ve learned a lot about different parts of myself, especially the “people pleaser” who has been running the show a whole lot over here. I’ve learned tools to help me access different parts of myself and understand why I feel a certain way and how I can get curious about my own patterns and behaviors. I have learned about my own sexual identity, how compulsory heterosexuality and internalized homophobia have played a big role in shutting down the parts of myself that are queer and curious. AND I have learned language and information about how to best speak to these things, understand them more fully, and in return be more present and embodied with my own sexual identity. I am grateful to Samantha for her wisdom, encouragement, and support.”