You are out of the closet…

(even if you are the only one that knows)

You feel alone and like there’s no safe place to explore, get curious and process what’s coming up!

The Bi Life

Exploration. Support. Community.

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    Exploration

    Monthly thought topics, writing prompts, and a private page where curiosity is strongly encouraged

  • Six women standing closely with arms around each other's waists, facing away outdoors on a sunny day.

    Support

    Ask questions on The Bi Life’s private community page and get feedback from others as well as Samantha who will be moderating the page. Get live support on bi-weekly virtual group calls

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    Community

    Join live Zoom calls with others who are struggling with similar feelings. Build your queer community. Create deep connections with others and feel less alone

You’ve realized you’re bisexual …

  • …and want to know how to connect to your queer identity when you live in a straight world. The Bi Life is for you.

  • …and not only is your male partner /husband accepting of your bisexuality, he is excited to have threesomes with you so that you can experience sexual intimacy with a woman. You have taken him up on that but realize this was more for him than it was for you, and you would like to experience this on your own without his presence, but don’t know how to do that. The Bi Life is for you!

  • …and can’t figure out what to do about the nagging feeling that you are missing an integral part of your identity. A part of you shows up and starts questioning why you are giving this energy. Does it even matter that you have these feelings? The Bi Life is for you!

  • …and find yourself wondering, “How do I find meaningful connection with people like myself when my life looks super straight?” , The Bi Life is for you!

  • …and want to explore ideas for managing the longing to be with a woman when you can’t act on it. The Bi Life is for you!

  • …and are wondering how women who have enjoyed sex with men on some level, or at some point in their lives conclude they are lesbian rather than bisexual today. The Bi Life is for you!

  • …and feel the temptation to downplay this part of your identity since you've "made your choice" to be partnered with a man and everyone around you is very comfortable with that, except for you, The Bi Life is for you!

  • …and feel so safe and accepted by society when you are with your male partner but another part of you is longing for a WLW connection and it feels like something big is missing. The Bi Life is for you.

  • …and while its fine for others to be queer, you are paralyzed by your own internal homophobia and can’t figure your way out of those feelings. The Bi Life is for you!

  • …and are practicing ENM with your male partner, but live a very heteronormative life and have no one to share what you are experiencing with, The Bi Life is for you.

  • …and want to understand more about your attraction to women and why you keep minimizing these feelings, The Bi Life is for you!

  • …and realize you may be more gay than bisexual but you don’t have any safe space to talk about this. The Bi Life is for you.

“If you are feeling isolated and alone within the larger queer community, like you are being judged or misunderstood for being bi, and/or choosing to stay married, this is a place for you. Where you can let go, and let it all out, all those fears and worries and the grief and anger that you are hanging onto because you feel like there’s no one who “gets it”. These women are your tribe.”
— A recent Bi Lifer
“I was SO nervous about joining and nearly didn’t, especially because I hadn’t really come out expect to a couple trusted people in my life. But I also knew I didn’t want to continue this journey feeling so isolated and alone with my thoughts. I took the leap, cried through the whole first call and was so scared, but it changed so much inside me. I found more courage each week to speak to the things coming up and felt SO supported and seen.”
— A recent Bi Lifer
“ I can imagine you feel totally alone and crazy at the moment. You are not, alone, there is a community of us all around you, you just have to reach out for help. Once you walk through the fear, we can catch you on the other side.”
— Bi Life participant

  • What happens inside The Bi Life?

  • Live 60-minute Zoom calls (available to view on replay in The Bi Life private community space) twice per month

  • Thought topics based on your own struggles and questions to enhance deep internal exploration/self-reflection and connection with others during our live calls

  • Bring your wins, challenges, and loving, curious energy to the live calls and build deep connections with others on their Bi Life journey

  • Connect to and ask for support from your community on The Bi Life’s private page moderated by Samantha

  • Invitation to do deep Self work through thought/writing prompts posted in The Bi Life private feed

  • Build connection and community with new like-minded friends on The Bi Life’s private page

  • Experience an open exchange of curiosity when you bring Samantha your burning questions

  • "Working with Samantha has been such a productive investment in my emotional health. I had been trying to work through this quandary on my own, but I kept ending up paralyzed by fear and unable to move through indecision to a healthier place.

    Samantha’s skill in asking just the right question at just the right time allowed me to get clarity on the best ways to progress forward. Being able to access her through asynchronous coaching between live sessions kept me feeling fully supported, like she had her hand on my back the whole time. It was an incredible relief to share with someone who truly understood (from personal experience) and such a benefit to have her coaching enhanced by her training & experience as a LMFT."

    Trish B. Jasper, Canada

  • “Samantha gave me a very special space to question many of the ideas and assumptions I had about myself in the safest, most gentle and most supportive way. In this special space, this is where little by little I began to find myself…

    This is where I began to distinguish between those beliefs I had that were so deeply rooted in society's conditioning and expectations (that I didn't even realize the choice wasn't mine to begin with) and those ideas that I consciously chose simply because they resonate deep within me regardless of anything or anyone.

    And slowly, I began to replace the "shoulds" with my "wants" and limiting old beliefs with empowering new ones, realizing how amazing and empowering it is to be ME in all my uniqueness.”

    S.L.

  • “My journey to self-discovery and emotional freedom began with just one coaching session with Samantha; it was transformative. After battling anxiety and questioning my sexual identity for the past several months, I realized therapy alone was insufficient. I needed a life coach who could meet me where I am currently and equip me with emotional tools. Samantha created a safe space for vulnerability from the beginning. I openly shared my struggles, even crying at first.

    However, by the end of the session I felt at peace. Samantha asked insightful questions and drew from her own experiences, personalizing our session. We discovered that from a young age I was conditioned to ignore my feelings and make decisions based solely on “doing the right thing”. The conditioning of my upbringing has caused me to constantly seek control. Now this tendency manifests as anxiety around my identity.Samantha’s coaching sparked “happiness” within me. By the end of our session, I felt ready to mediate and fully experience every emotion, for however long I needed to feel. I did just that, and it was cathartic. Afterwards, a calmness washed over me that I had not felt in months.

    I know this journey will not be easy, but at least I now have the tools to feel my emotions, accept myself and embrace what comes. I’m excited to join Samantha’s 12-Week Late Bloomers Bootcamp as I am ready to lean more into self-exploratory work and to connect with a community of women on a similar path. Previously, I thought I was alone; Samantha has shown me otherwise. My journey has only just begun.

    Thank you, Samantha.”

    D.P.

  • “Coming out later in life after living a disingenuous straight life for over thirty years was both terrifying and exhilarating.

    Shedding the pretense of heteronormativity and embracing my authentic inner tom boi while feeling comfortable in my own body for the first time was, and continues to be life-giving.

    Having Samantha there to help guide me through this process was incredible. She taught me about being true to myself and embracing myself as I am unapologetically.”

    Stephanie F., New Jersey

  • “Feeling like I didn't fit in, like there was something off or wrong, having relationships that never felt like that soul level...it all makes sense now. I was never myself. I was always trying to play the part that everyone else wanted me to play.
    There was no way that I was going to live at my highest potential or be the best person that I could be staying straight, cisgendered and people pleasing, doing all the things that society wanted me to do - I was going to be mediocre.

    Now I feel so much pride for who I am. I feel excited, like I finally match who I am.”

    K.G., Seattle

  • “My journey to self-discovery and emotional freedom began with just one coaching session with Samantha; it was transformative. After battling anxiety and questioning my sexual identity for the past several months, I realized therapy alone was insufficient. I needed a life coach who could meet me where I am currently and equip me with emotional tools. Samantha created a safe space for vulnerability from the beginning. I openly shared my struggles, even crying at first. However, by the end of the session I felt at peace. Samantha asked insightful questions and drew from her own experiences, personalizing our session. We discovered that from a young age I was conditioned to ignore my feelings and make decisions based solely on “doing the right thing”. The conditioning of my upbringing has caused me to constantly seek control. Now this tendency manifests as anxiety around my identity.

    Samantha’s coaching sparked “happiness” within me. By the end of our session, I felt ready to mediate and fully experience every emotion, for however long I needed to feel. I did just that, and it was cathartic. Afterwards, a calmness washed over me that I had not felt in months.

    I know this journey will not be easy, but at least I now have the tools to feel my emotions, accept myself and embrace what comes. I’m excited to join Samantha’s 12-Week Late Bloomers Bootcamp as I am ready to lean more into self-exploratory work and to connect with a community of women on a similar path. Previously, I thought I was alone; Samantha has shown me otherwise. My journey has only just begun.”

    D.R., New Jersey

Ready to join The Bi Life Community?

Exploration, Community and Guided Support

$77/month

  • Thought topics/writing prompts based on what you are struggling with to enhance deep self-exploration

  • Two 60-minute live Zoom calls/month (Wednesdays 12-1 pm ET)

  • Replays available for one week if you miss the live call

  • Private The Bi Life community page moderated by Samantha

  • Interactive support (ask for what you need)

  • Build community and feel less isolated as you explore your identity

**Cancellation policy- Registering for the community means you commit to the first 3 months as a member.have the option to continue on a month to month basis or cancel your membership. You must email Samantha in order to cancel.

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Hi, I’m Samantha Fox, the Lesbian Curiosity Coach®

Back in 2002, when I was questioning my sexuality, I felt lost and didn’t know where to turn. Unbox Your Sexuality® is the resource I wish I had then, created specifically for you—so you never have to feel confused or alone the way I did. Since 2010, I’ve been dedicated to supporting women who are questioning their sexuality and coming out later in life.

This work fills me with excitement and purpose. My mission is to inspire, guide, and celebrate you as you navigate your journey toward authenticity.

Professional Experience

As a Sexuality Coach, I work with women around the world who are discovering that they may not be as straight as they once thought. I developed the Unboxing Method to guide them through a transformative journey, watching as they break free from the schemas and narratives they've internalized from growing up in a patriarchal society. The process unfolds in three powerful phases: unpacking, unlearning, and unleashing.

I am also a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in New York, with a private practice where I work with individuals and couples facing challenges in relationships, communication, sexuality, sexual issues, and intimacy. Drawing from a variety of therapeutic models, I create personalized approaches because I believe that no single method works for everyone.

Throughout my career, I’ve been honored to help women coming out later in life who are grappling with internalized homophobia, guilt, shame, and anxiety. I help them navigate the emotional hurdles of accepting, embracing, and fully embodying their authentic selves.

To provide a supportive space for women to explore, discover, and live their truth, I created the Unbox Your Sexuality® Programs—a global community where women can find solidarity and encouragement as they question their sexuality or come out later in life.